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How to Have a Successful and Confident New Year! The 8 Step Guide - EP5 - Part 2

EP5 - Part 2 - Getting Prepared for 2024. Eight Steps to Guide You Into a Successful and Confident New Year! Part 2

This episode we finish up our planning for a confident and successful new year. Don't forget to go grab your worksheet so you can complete all the exercises. You won't regret taking the time to sit down and get clear about where you have been and where you are headed. 

Step 6 - Add the steps to your goals to your calendar

These are actionable steps. Give yourself a timeframe. Back out the dates for the end goal and add mini deadlines to your calendar. Don't forget to follow the directions and add your birthdays, anniversaries, and vacation dates first and fill in around those dates. Make time for family and friends!

Step 7 - Work on your mindset

This may be the most important step.

Your D.I.R.T (Doubts, Insecurities, Resistance, Triggers)® will keep you from reaching your goals if you do not deal with it up front! Getting coached is the most efficient and effective way to do this!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s make it a year you will be proud of!!

Imagine having deeper connections, feeling less anxiety and overwhelm, gaining clarity, and fully trusting yourself.

Picture yourself not just surviving, but truly thriving.

It’s time to take the first step towards a fulfilling and joyful life.

Join me for an empowering coaching journey to unlock your true potential and live a life filled with confidence and joy.

Get started today with 1:1 coaching:  H C Edwards Coaching - Website - Free Discovery Call

Visit me on Instagram:  H C Edwards Coaching on Instagram

Contact me by email: Heather@hcedwardscoaching.com

 

I'm here with you every step of the way!

 

XOXO, 

Heather 

 

How to Have a Successful and Confident New Year. The 8 Step Guide. - EP4 - Part 1

EP4 - Part 1 - Getting Prepared for 2024 - 8 Step Guide to Help You Have a Successful and Confident New Year!

Like me you love this time of year all the beautiful lights the holiday cookies and all the wonderful food The Gatherings getting dressed up all the fun things of this time of year but it's also brings time of reflection of looking back on the past year and what we've accomplished or for some of us what we have an accomplished and it's kind of Bittersweet their emotions are sometimes strong and sometimes it can be downright disappointing if we didn't accomplish the goals that we set out at the beginning I like to help my clients reach more of their goals and I ended up creating a small guide eight steps to guide you into a successful New Year is a great guy to help you get clarity create a plan and at the end of the year I guarantee you you are more confident because you have spent the time and energy to figure out exactly where you want to put your time and energy and when you do that something magical really happens you feel more in control of your life and it builds so much more confidence.

1. Review the past year. What went right? What went wrong? What would you like to do differently? What is working and you want to continue the same way?
2. Take Inventory. Yourself, family, friends, and the groups you are involved with. What do you love? What is serving you and what could you let go of to make room for something new?
3. Clean out the clutter. Physical and mental clutter are taking up space, time, and energy. Get the energy, time, and space back by cleaning out your spaces and your mind.
4. Set goals. Use your brainstorm from 1 and 2 to create your goal list. Use SMART goals. 
5. Set yourself up for success. Create micro goals by breaking your goals into pieces and figuring out what tools, resources, and connections you will need to accomplish your goals.

Next week we will wrap up the 8 steps in the second of the 2 part series. Eight Steps to Guide You into a Successful and Confident New Year.

Imagine having deeper connections, feeling less anxiety and overwhelm, gaining clarity, and fully trusting yourself.

Picture yourself not just surviving, but truly thriving.

It’s time to take the first step towards a fulfilling and joyful life.

Join me for an empowering coaching journey to unlock your true potential and live a life filled with confidence and joy.

Get started today with 1:1 coaching:  H C Edwards Coaching - Website - Free Discovery Call

Visit me on Instagram:  H C Edwards Coaching on Instagram

Contact me by email: Heather@hcedwardscoaching.com

 

I'm here with you every step of the way!

 

XOXO, 

Heather 

 

How to Rebuild Trust When Trust Has Been Broken. - EP3

Episode 3 - Can trust be repaired? Broken trust and how to create trust within yourself to build stronger confidence.

Did someone in your world break your trust? Maybe it was your friend, a boyfriend, a parent, or if you are married maybe it was your spouse.

Maybe it was someone at work. A teammate or your boss. Or there’s that vendor that you do business with who always makes promises that they don’t keep.

Many times in our lives we will encounter others that betray us in some way. They break promises, contracts, or simply don’t behave in a way that is trustworthy. This can feel devastating, break our hearts, and at times depending on who it is or what the offense was, it can create a huge hole in our hearts that we don’t know how to fill. Often times, it’s so big it feels as if it can never be filled or repaired.

Most likely you have a person picked out in your mind as you are listening to this and you may be shaking your head or thinking YES! I do have someone who broke my trust. You are listening with an anticipatory ear for the answer to how to fix it! What do I do to fix it??

Place your hand you’re your heart and take three deep breaths. For real, stop what you are doing (unless your are driving or operating machinery of course)  but even if so you can still take in three long, deep, and controlled breaths. Then I want you to say out loud _____________ you broke my trust and I am _______________ by it.  Even though I am ____________________ I forgive you.

Take one second and notice what thoughts flood to your brain. I am not forgiving this person for what they did. You just don’t know how badly they hurt me. Or _______ isn’t forgivable.

Or maybe you have the thought I wish I could forgive them. That would be great to forgive them. Then I want you to consider this.

Forgiving is a choice. It is your choice. The even greater point is that YOU and your thoughts are what is preventing YOU from having peace around this break in trust.

Don’t worry, I hear you. Your brain is creating thoughts like “I am not responsible for their behavior.” You are 100 percent correct.

I am not asking you to forget what happened to break the trust you once had. What I am asking you to do is to allow YOU to have peace around the break in trust. Why?? You cannot and never will be able to control what other people do to you or how they show up. Period. End of story. Having control over other people and their actions is an illusion.

If you are like me, you like the idea of control, you like consistency, you love to be shown respect and you want to trust the people you love and care for. Heck, we even expect to be able to trust people we don’t know, love, or care for.

So what is the benefit of forgiving someone who has broken your trust?

We tend to believe this is giving the person who broke our trust a break somehow. They aren’t having to pay for what they did. This may be true.

Understand that I am not advocating that you TRUST this person or step back into whatever situation that you were in. I am simply asking you to consider letting go of the thoughts that are creating the pain in you right now. This gift of forgiveness is a gift to YOU! The other person doesn’t ever have to know.

What are the benefits of letting go and forgiving the hurt and pain that you believe someone else created in your life by breaking your TRUST?

1. You have more room in your brain for more productive thoughts. Often times, when a breach of trust happens, you spend a ton of time reviewing the story in your mind. You tell other people and continue reinforcing how horrible it was. This not only reinforces your disappointment, increases your emotions of anger or sadness, and prevents you from healing. By forgiving the person, it allows your brain to move on to something better. It may or may not involve the other person.
2. It creates more freedom for you to experience a new circumstance that will outshine the negative one. When you are feeling hurt or not trusting you to tend to put up walls, retreat or stay in a safe place. This may look like avoiding interactions with others, or staying clear of the person or place that created your trust issue. However, it also prevents you from having other experiences that may outshine the old one. By forgiving you create space for new.
3. It allows you to be more confident in yourself. Have you ever noticed when someone hurts you or breaks your TRUST, it challenges your belief in your worthiness? We have thoughts like, I am worth more than that. In truth, the person breaking your trust is the one with a with an issue, not you. They typically don’t trust themselves to do what they are supposed to do. That’s exactly why they aren’t trustworthy. You and only you can be sure of your worth. Sure, other people may do things that you “think” show you your worth but if you don’t believe you are worthy, no amount of action by others will make you feel worthy. Don’t depend on another person to give you your worth. You are worthy right now, exactly who you are today. Nobody can give you more worthiness. This is great news, because that also means nobody can take it away. God made you, that is worthiness enough!

 

If you are having trouble getting to a place where you can forgive someone, I can help you with that. Go to thecrazyconfidencecoach.com and set up a session, and I will help you get to a place where you can find more peace toward someone who broke your trust.

But before we wrap up today’s podcast, let’s talk about one more aspect regarding TRUST. You MUST trust yourself!

To trust yourself you must believe in yourself and in your own abilities. When you believe in yourself you are more confident and more likely to feel positive and know your own value. You don’t need other people to approve of you or accept you because you are content with who you are.

When you do not trust yourself, your confidence tends to be low, and it will ebb and flow with situations that don’t feel good.

What causes lack of TRUST within yourself and hurts your confidence?

1. Not following through on commitments to yourself or others. Whether it’s not eating more than two cookies out of that oreo bag, or not drinking at the holiday party you are attending…every time you make a plan and you don’t follow through you are telling yourself you aren’t trustworthy. If you say you are going to do it, do it. If you aren’t 100 percent sure if you are committed consider not making the plan at all.
2. Second guessing yourself. You are smart, unique, and special. God made you that way. When you have an intuition or a thought about doing something, just do it. So what if it doesn’t work out the way you thought it would. You will get feedback in the form of learning and information to do it better the next time. Second guessing often leads to inaction. Inaction leads to feeling insecure or unworthiness. Nike really does have the best slogan for this. Just do it.
3. Not being honest with yourself or others. Being impeccable with your word. When you aren’t it hurts your confidence. Sometimes, we say or do things out of integrity even without intending to do so. If you find yourself in this situation, correct it and move on. Each time this happens we think a little less of ourselves. Ironically, it also makes us doubt the integrity of others.
4. Your self-talk or the way you talk to yourself. When you beat yourself up each time you make a mistake or pick apart your humanness all the time, you will not trust yourself. Consider this each time you speak to yourself. Would you speak that way to 5-year-old you? If not, do not talk that way to yourself.
5. Comparing yourself to other people. Other people and their lives are great to view for inspiration or examples. But you will never get where you want to go by comparing your story to theirs. You don’t know what chapter they are in. Don’t compare your first chapter to their 20^th Conversely, it does you no good to compare your 20^th chapter to their 1^st. Behind every person, there is a world that you know nothing about. I promise! When you live a life of comparison with others, you will erode your confidence every time.
6. Constantly seeking reassurance from others. I love feedback, I mean who doesn’t. But keep in mind, the more you need from others the more your happiness, TRUST, and confidence depend on outside influence. Find ways to reassure yourself.
7. Lastly, gossiping about others. Talking about people with other people without them in attendance is gossiping. Social sharing with good intention is fantastic when you have the permission to share. Like telling people about The Crazy Confidence Coach Podcast, share away. But ask yourself, is the information going to hurt the person you are speaking about? If so, don’t say it. When we use gossip for attaining power over someone we are typically not speaking with high integrity. You wan to be confident in your abilities to be trustworthy. This will increase your confidence. You may notice that you don’t trust other people when they share or gossip even if the information is juicy and fun to know.

The Question remains can trust be repaired? Trust can be repaired but sometimes that repair is required within yourself.

Imagine having deeper connections, feeling less anxiety and overwhelm, gaining clarity, and fully trusting yourself.

Picture yourself not just surviving, but truly thriving.

It’s time to take the first step towards a fulfilling and joyful life.

Join me for an empowering coaching journey to unlock your true potential and live a life filled with confidence and joy.

Get started today with 1:1 coaching:  H C Edwards Coaching - Website - Free Discovery Call

Visit me on Instagram:  H C Edwards Coaching on Instagram

Contact me by email: Heather@hcedwardscoaching.com

 

I've got your back!

 

XOXO, 

Heather 

 

 

 

3 quick ways to use mind management to help your confidence? - EP2

EP2 - Once you begin to shift little thoughts in your life, you will start to notice less resistance and begin living with more ease.

Three quick steps to helping you start today!

1. Awareness – just start paying attention to the words you are speaking to yourself. Don’t panic when you say something negative. Negativity is normal. Everyone has negative thoughts.
2. Evaluate a thought or two or ten in the next week - To evaluate a thought all you need to do is ask yourself about the thought? Is the thought true and accurate? We will go into this process specifically in later episodes, but it is powerful to learn how to get to the facts and truth of your thoughts. Many of our thoughts are borrowed from friends, family, or co-workers. We decipher and interpret what other people offer us as thoughts in the form of sentences. In other words, when people mention something to you about you, often you make that be true. Even if it isn’t. If you are ready to get clear about who you are and who you want to be. Get really clear on your thoughts about yourself and who you are and where they come from. Then get super clear on how factual they are and if you want to keep them. We will work a ton of this in future episodes, so don’t worry. If it feels fuzzy or feels confusing we will get to the bottom of it.
3. Rework your thought and make it true or helpful or at the very least neutral – This is not an invitation to make everything positive. Toxic positivity can be dangerous and create more shame and guilt that turns into depression and anxiety. The new thought just needs to be true and neutral. When I say neutral all I mean is a statement that does not create the “feeling” of shame or guilt. Let me give you an example.

Just doing these three things will begin increasing your confidence and how you interpret your abilities and capabilities. When you feel capable you will absolutely begin to feel confident!

Imagine having deeper connections, feeling less anxiety and overwhelm, gaining clarity, and fully trusting yourself.

Picture yourself not just surviving, but truly thriving.

It’s time to take the first step towards a fulfilling and joyful life.

Join me for an empowering coaching journey to unlock your true potential and live a life filled with confidence and joy.

Get started today with 1:1 coaching:  H C Edwards Coaching - Website - Free Discovery Call

Visit me on Instagram:  H C Edwards Coaching on Instagram

Contact me by email: Heather@hcedwardscoaching.com

 

I'm here with you every step of the way!

 

XOXO, 

Heather 

 

 

 

 

 

What is confidence and where does it come from? - EP1

EP1 - What is confidence and where does it come from?

Confidence requires the willingness to test and fail.

This is the skill part. Skills are honed and sharpened by practice. Practice requires action. Action requires willingness. Notice I didn’t say Ability. You have to be able to “do it anyway” even when you are scared or nervous. Each time you exercise this muscle you will build more confidence. Even if you fail, you get feedback or learn something. This learning and feedback moves you forward and helps you create belief. That belief becomes confidence.

Confidence can be borrowed.

When confidence is low, it is possible to borrow confidence for a short time. You might call this motivation instead of confidence. However, it can help you build your confidence when you don’t have it.

Borrowing confidence might be calling a friend who always believes in you, going to a Tony Robbins training, or listening to The Crazy Confidence Coach podcast on confidence! These activities will give you a short term boost and maybe just enough energy to build a skill that will be more sustainable. You cannot become confident on borrowed confidence alone. You can’t just post affirmations around the house and read them without action and expect to be more confident.

You have to be willing to work on mindset by managing your mind.

You have to be willing to take action and fail. 

Imagine having deeper connections, feeling less anxiety and overwhelm, gaining clarity, and fully trusting yourself.

Picture yourself not just surviving, but truly thriving.

It’s time to take the first step towards a fulfilling and joyful life.

Join me for an empowering coaching journey to unlock your true potential and live a life filled with confidence and joy.

Get started today with 1:1 coaching:  H C Edwards Coaching - Website - Free Discovery Call

Visit me on Instagram:  H C Edwards Coaching on Instagram

Contact me by email: Heather@hcedwardscoaching.com

 

I've got your back!

 

XOXO, 

Heather 

 

The Crazy Confidence Coach - Heather Edwards - TRAILER

TRAILER: Hey there, I am so glad you stopped by. I’m Heather Edwards a woman of faith, wife, master certified life coach, cancer survivor, and coffee lover. I’ve spent the last few years coaching entrepreneurs, executives, teenagers, a high school volleyball team, and inside a faith-based women’s group. What did they all have in common? They all need confidence to accomplish their goals.

Even though I coach on a variety of topics, it usually boils down to confidence in one way or another.

So, what about you?

Is there an area of your life that you struggle to feel confident in?

Maybe life has thrown crazy circumstances your way, and you can’t figure out how to navigate through it.

Maybe you just feel stuck, overwhelmed, or misunderstood and wish you could feel more at ease and confident?

Maybe life just turned out differently than you had imagined?

Maybe you fantasize about how to completely rewrite your life?

If you secretly want a blueprint for how to stop overthinking, procrastinating, and avoiding. 

If you are ready to finally let go of resistance and struggle in your life and begin experiencing more happiness, curiosity, and generosity.

This is the right place for you!

If you hang out with me, I promise you will learn how to manage your mind. We will do the work to identify and let go of negative and limiting beliefs and we will also use curiosity to figure out what’s preventing you from going for those BIG, BIG dreams you have. 

Imagine having deeper connections, feeling less anxiety and overwhelm, gaining clarity, and fully trusting yourself.

Picture yourself not just surviving, but truly thriving.

It’s time to take the first step towards a fulfilling and joyful life.

Join me for an empowering coaching journey to unlock your true potential and live a life filled with confidence and joy.

Get started today with 1:1 coaching:  H C Edwards Coaching - Website - Free Discovery Call

Visit me on Instagram:  H C Edwards Coaching on Instagram

Contact me by email: Heather@hcedwardscoaching.com

 

I've got your back!

 

XOXO, 

Heather